Destiny Skywalker Posted January 17, 2022 Share Posted January 17, 2022 I'm sorry, Foz. I hope arrangements go smoothly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 18, 2022 Share Posted January 18, 2022 And I apparently fucked up telling the kids, because Laura feels like she should have been more involved and she’s raging mad and I’m just destroyed. The one day where I need the most support and mercy and the person I need it from the most would rather yell. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cerina Posted January 18, 2022 Share Posted January 18, 2022 I'm sorry, Brandon. Is there anything we can do? I'm sure Laura will come around soon. She's obviously dealing with some big emotions that are coming out as anger. You're absolutely ok with telling your kids however you felt was right. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 18, 2022 Share Posted January 18, 2022 I mean, I know she’s having emotions too. We’ve been together for 15 years, so she’s had some relationship with my mom for that time. She’s allowed to feel her feelings, and I’m reminding myself of that. But, at the same time, I’m also allowing myself to feel hurt. And she’s still mad and treating me like shit. My brother, sister-in-law, niece, and sister are all here - they get sympathy and I get snipes and snarls. I’m trying to give her the same grace and mercy that I want, but it’s hard. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 18, 2022 Share Posted January 18, 2022 The one thing my family does really well is mourn. I’m a little drunk, which helps, but a few of us are a little drunk and we laughed and cried and told stories and circled the wagons and brought each other closer. I mean other people cried because I’m broken and that doesn’t happen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zathras Posted January 18, 2022 Share Posted January 18, 2022 I am so sorry Brandon. My deepest condolences. I hope things cool down with your wife, too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tank Posted January 18, 2022 Author Share Posted January 18, 2022 I can’t even imagine, so sorry, Brandon. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hobbes Posted January 18, 2022 Share Posted January 18, 2022 That is awful. I am sorry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Odine Posted January 18, 2022 Share Posted January 18, 2022 Very sorry for your loss, Brando. Hope youre ok Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 18, 2022 Share Posted January 18, 2022 Thanks. The brokenness that kept me from crying seems to have been fixed. I go back and forth between numb and crying. We made the funeral plans, and that’s all squared away. Looking forward to that being over. They ruled it an accidental death - we were hoping it was a heart attack, but she fell and hit her head and that was what got her. It still seems surreal, and I keep wanting to call her to talk, but obviously that isn’t happening. Coincidentally or not, she refused to give up praying for me to get the job I was rejected for. Then, on the day we learned about her death, my boss told me I had gotten the job after all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jacen123 Posted January 19, 2022 Share Posted January 19, 2022 I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 19, 2022 Share Posted January 19, 2022 Just processing here and taking over this thread for now. I havent written poetry for a long time, but wrote this today: Grief is not unlike the ocean We stay in the shallows to hide from our feelings Afraid of the undercurrent if we travel too far As though it would pull us down and never let us go As though it would carry us into depths that are beyond us But grief is not unlike the ocean It breaks the dangerous rocks of relationships Into beautiful sand that we can admire and enjoy It hides beauty in the depths The beauty of new life The beauty of undiscovered adventure I stay in the shallows, because if I go too far I might lose myself I’m not a strong swimmer And grief is not unlike the ocean Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 21, 2022 Share Posted January 21, 2022 Survived the calling hours and the funeral. I spoke at calling hours, spoke again at the funeral home where we gathered before the funeral, and then read Scripture at the Mass. I also picked all the Scripture and songs for the funeral Mass. Not gonna say I did all of it 100% sober, but mostly. I had a few drinks at the calling hours, because I knew who would have liquor in their trunk. A little drunk right now too, because we went to a restaurant for the funeral lunch because it was hard to find a place due to COVID. All the places the church would normally host a lunch were booked or closed. I had 2 margaritas of my own and finished Laura’s second, which was pretty full. So 3 margaritas, and I had told the bartender we were leaving my mom’s funeral so she made them extra strong. Im a little overwhelmed with being “on” so much but I still have to take Louis to a Cub Scout camp-in tonight. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 24, 2022 Share Posted January 24, 2022 On 1/17/2022 at 6:14 PM, Darth Krawlie said: fucking hell we're the age where it's gonna start happening to all of us now aren't we I'm sorry man It’s not only going to start happening, it’s going to accelerate - my mom was one of 5, and only 1 is remaining. My dad was was of 17, and 10 are remaining. The youngest is 65ish and the oldest is well into her 80s. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darth Krawlie Posted January 24, 2022 Share Posted January 24, 2022 SEVENTEEN Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 25, 2022 Share Posted January 25, 2022 2 hours ago, Darth Krawlie said: SEVENTEEN And no twins. 17 individual, full-term pregnancies. And of all of them, none of the kids had more than 3 kids. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darth Krawlie Posted January 25, 2022 Share Posted January 25, 2022 your grandma must've had some really great poon Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 25, 2022 Share Posted January 25, 2022 19 minutes ago, Darth Krawlie said: your grandma must've had some really great poon This was southern Ohio before meth, so all they had was sex. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cerina Posted January 25, 2022 Share Posted January 25, 2022 My friends with lots of kids all tell me that after the 3rd, it's all the same. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 25, 2022 Share Posted January 25, 2022 6 hours ago, Cerina said: My friends with lots of kids all tell me that after the 3rd, it's all the same. Depends on a lot of things, including financial ability, which my grandparents didn’t have. 17 kids in a 2 bedroom house, for example. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darth Krawlie Posted January 25, 2022 Share Posted January 25, 2022 your grandpa had the worst pull out game of all time Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ms. Spam Posted January 25, 2022 Share Posted January 25, 2022 I think it's all good until you weigh 12 pounds three ounces at birth like my Dad did and then that stuff gets cut off right quick. He probably literally fell out because of gravity. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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