Guest Posted July 25, 2021 Share Posted July 25, 2021 About 6 years ago, right around the time my oldest daughter was born or a little before, I got rid of Facebook. I had really good reasons for doing it, and for the most part I’m really glad I’m not on. I don’t miss the pettiness, the stupidity, and I’m SUPER glad I missed almost all of Trump on social media. The one downside is that it cut all of my old friends out of my life, and taking a break from everyone socially has made me realize that I still care more for some of those people than the people currently in my life. Now, some of them I could contact through other means - but I’ve switched phones and email addresses over the past decade, so most of them can only be reached by doing Facebook or, in some cases, Twitter. But, at the same time, I don’t want to spend time on Facebook. I don’t want to see people who are already in my life, I don’t want to deal with family crap, and I like having to actually talk to people to hear about their lives instead of seeing it all on Facebook. I downloaded the app and came close to setting up a new account a couple times, but keep stopping at the final screen. Just writing this makes me realize that I’m better off without it, even if it means cutting off a portion of my past. But, man, it sucks that is has to be that way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zambingo Posted July 25, 2021 Share Posted July 25, 2021 Wally runs a fun, dank meme and chat group which is probably the only good thing other than the Marketplace on Facebook. Even that wasn’t enough to keep me tho. I deleted like everyone except my immediate fam and my Nightly / Wally’s group friends, thinking I could just keep going on the Book that way, but I just couldn’t. The account is active but that is just for my kids and wife really to read all the stories I recited about them on my wall. But anyway, Wally’s group is basically Lando and this should make everyone laugh and feel old but my oldest son is an admin in that group. See what y’all did?! Backs of Hands totally did have an effect on him. ;-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Odine Posted July 25, 2021 Share Posted July 25, 2021 You're doing the right thing not being on there IMO. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iceheart Posted July 28, 2021 Share Posted July 28, 2021 I went back to Facebook with a brand new profile last September after taking two years off. And I’m actually glad I did. I don’t know if it’s my attitude or my careful friend cultivation, but it’s been huge in getting me through being an invalid for the past year. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ms. Spam Posted July 28, 2021 Share Posted July 28, 2021 I have to use Facebook. Part of it was for my job (It was way easier to communicate with parents through Facebook for questions than through the dumb app the school offered) and I run our Church's page so I have to post events and stuff and daily Bible verses with a devotional. That being said a lot of my family left Facebook and I actually miss seeing pictures of them but I love seeing all my friends from nightly.net on it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 17, 2021 Share Posted September 17, 2021 I ended up going back, with pretty serious rules. If you're someone currently in my life, we're not friends on Facebook. If I'm related to you, we're not friends on Facebook. If you're an old friend that I've lost touch with and actually care about, we'll be friends on Facebook. No app. No groups. Just a few friends from the past, mostly from high school. No other connections. If I find I'm checking it every day, without a good reason, I'm deleting the account. If I start to get emotional because of it, I'm deleting the account. That includes letting idiots make me feel angry, but hopefully that won't happen because the list of friends is so small. I've already connected with one friend and we're going to do a hike together sometime soon. So that was awesome. He was one of my best friends in high school, but we drifted apart in our 20s, through no real fault of anyone. But I'm glad to reconnect. We still have a lot in common, and spent a good amount of time talking about camping and hiking and how we both love living in the city but also need to get out and reconnect with nature for extended periods. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iceheart Posted September 17, 2021 Share Posted September 17, 2021 So, you're saying none of us will be your Facebook friends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 17, 2021 Share Posted September 17, 2021 1 hour ago, Iceheart said: So, you're saying none of us will be your Facebook friends. Absolutely not. My wife can’t even be my friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darth Krawlie Posted September 17, 2021 Share Posted September 17, 2021 that's okay she's MY friend Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sheep Murderer Posted September 20, 2021 Share Posted September 20, 2021 I largely use FB for the groups. Its awesome if you have very specific hobbies or you are in dire need of memes during your workday. How toxic FB is really seems to depend on how you cultivate it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 20, 2021 Share Posted September 20, 2021 I prefer Imgur for memes and Nightly/Reddit for hobbies. But I’m glad it works for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iceheart Posted September 20, 2021 Share Posted September 20, 2021 13 hours ago, Sheep Murderer said: I largely use FB for the groups. Its awesome if you have very specific hobbies or you are in dire need of memes during your workday. How toxic FB is really seems to depend on how you cultivate it. Agreed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cerina Posted September 22, 2021 Share Posted September 22, 2021 On 9/20/2021 at 12:01 PM, Iceheart said: Agreed. Dittoed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zathras Posted September 23, 2021 Share Posted September 23, 2021 I only use FB to stay in contact with people I would otherwise not have contact with. I don't get people who want 1000 friends on FB they don't even really know. I don't post anything political because people get stupid on FB. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 2, 2021 Share Posted October 2, 2021 Things have been going well. I’m on a couple times a week, and I’ve really helped some people just by reaching out to them. Keeping the friends list tiny means that each person has value and I can check on them. And I’ve heard a lot about how lonely and disconnected people are, when they get past the surface and into the real nitty gritty, so I’m glad I’m able to help in some small way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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