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Cerina
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OLD PEOPLE, YOU GUYS.

We did barely get everything in the truck. My dad was shocked he had so much stuff, he thought for sure we would have room to spare. His friends and a neighbor thankfully helped us unload when we got there. But then it's been hard to convince him to unpack. He keeps saying he's exhausted and taking naps, or just needing a break after minor tasks. I put his 2 beds together and it was like pulling teeth. It literally took 10 minutes and 5 of that was dusting the wood. No tools required. He has been sleeping on the floor on the mattress and springs for the last 5 years. I did it for 3 nights and I slept so much better after we built the beds. I dragged him to Costco to order a washer and dryer, knowing that they were likely not in stock and that he really needed to order them online anyway, but I ended up ordering it on my phone right there in the store just to get him to do it.

I'm concerned, y'all. He is very much still living in an analog world. He needs to talk to someone to do anything and no one is prepared for that anymore. He needs to get a new license and the courthouse is literally within walking distance and he thought he would walk down there to ask what documents he needs. This stuff can all be looked up online in advance, and I told him he will wait 30 minutes to ask a question that could've been answered looking on the internet in advance.

Are your parents like this? I'm honestly concerned.

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100% yes. My mom has long convinced herself she can’t figure out any technology (aided by my dads insistence she can’t when his biggest reason is because he doesn’t want to pay for modern tech), and the dementia makes it work. My dad will call a place 700 times to ask the same questions—or if it’s shopping, call 700 places to get price quotes. He’s a little better than he used to be, he at least knows how to google now, but is still very stuck in the boomer mindset of decades ago while being convinced that having an off brand prepaid-minutes-only smart phone makes him current.

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Dear God, this was my Dad, too. Took my brother and I nearly 10 months to clear out the house for sale, and now that the market is tanking, selling the house has become a pain.  And now I have a storage unit full of stuff I don't particularly want.  Also, my brother wants to have an asking price far above market value.  I literally had to tell a buyer no today.  

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Long story short, my parent's didn't properly take care of grandma's house when they inherited it and it ended up getting flooded when a pipe burst and they didn't find out for a month. After it was all said and done they lost around $180k, plus whatever money they should have gained renting the damn thing out for 10 years. I ended up fronting them thousands for two 40 foot dumpsters and an independent contractor to do a cleanup of the interior. I'm sure things will eventually come to a head with their house too. 

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  • 1 month later...

So, it looks like at long last, I have a buyer for my Dad's house.  It is an investor company who will rent the house out.  I docusigned some documents initializing the closing process.  I had to come down in price by $16K from the previously agreed figure (which was a steep cut from the original asking price), as they wanted a bunch of things fixed, and I didn't want to pay for the repairs myself.  We listed the house right at the peak of the market at the beginning of July 2022, and now things are getting hairy with the interest rates going up, stock market down, too much inventory on the market, and people just overall nervous.  I am 99% sure this will go through, so I am glad to be done with this!

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  • 5 months later...

This has been a fucking nightmare, y'all. Not the house itself so much as dealing with these particular family members. For 2.5 years now we've been trying to get my mother-in-law to homestead this house. She's refused. The taxes on it are now absolutely insane, and they're making buying this house a damn nightmare. The tax value on this house has almost doubled since 2020. Homesteading it would have capped the increase to 10% per year. Now we're running into lender after lender being scared to finance us because the monthly tax bill is larger than the principal, interest, and insurance combined. And my MIL and her brother (the two people who own this damn house) are throwing regular hissy fits because it's taking us longer to find a lender than we'd originally anticipated. All because they refused to listen to us about the taxes. 

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Today is the day I divided up the money from my Dad's house with my brother.   I made sure he got more money than I because he was a great help to empty the house.   The reason it took so long is because I waited until we did the taxes, and there was a loss to claim.  That was good because we both ended up with refunds.  I feel the weight lifted from settling my Dad's estate now.  I am so glad it is now done. 

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So I am soooo pissed. 

There is a local charter school that is moving out of its modular and to a new building.  They told us weeks ago we could have their old ramp.  We are putting up a new modular unit--we paid movers to move the ramp so I emailed the principal what time the movers would be there and the principal is all, "whoops--we sold the ramps after we said you could have them".  The issue is, we had our architect draw up plans built to that ramp size and redoing the plans will cost us upwards of tens of thousands of dollars. 

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