Ms. Spam Posted March 4 Share Posted March 4 The paper thing is wrong and needs to be addressed by "upper management". That teacher has poor impulse control. I mean I am not an observer but if she keeps that up she's going to get some observers sitting in on many classes. Or should. Honestly it sounds like she's venting on Q and taking out a lot of her classroom management style out on her instead of learning new techniques. As a new teacher I reached out to a ton of people hoping for help with classroom management because they didn't teach that to me in school and suddenly you've got 22+ kids and you worked really hard on a lesson and they are not having it and you're seeing it slip out of your control. It's young people as they don't have the experience like maybe a Mom might have or natural instinct to get it back on task (that's the jargon they used back in my moms day. You have to find ways to get them on task, Susan). Cheating is a big sign because other kids are seeing that maybe there's a place to get away with that and that age group Q is in is a big tester of boundaries as they become more of themselves and their personalities are developing and some parents are slow to catch on to that change at home so there's no warning to a teacher. There's probably a lot of kids who secretly (or didn't) laughed when Q got her paper torn up because it was a spectacle. Honestly schools can be a lot like other jobs. They say "we love diversity and aim to be a good school" but the implementation is often not the reality. It comes from "Upper management" though. They say well we'll do these things but provide no tools for that or instruction or teachers feel overwhelmed by ALL the crap that's laid on them for the day. I've seen that in my previous middle school. I quit and went to work for Cici's Pizza because it was easier working in the food business than dealing with tests, papers and dictates without support. Hiring the right people is often the best way to help and provide support. But like in other jobs we get a lot of people that simply don't belong and only see it as a paycheck and the pool to draw from is BAD. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destiny Skywalker Posted March 5 Author Share Posted March 5 Found out thie week that the principal is retiring. He's not gonna do squat. He's coasting. I reached out to him about how things are continuing to go and he glossed over all of it and then when I said look I am really not happy about the paper, he admitted that was "not her best moment". I met another mom at lacrosse practice who is a former teacher who volunteers in there regularly and within 5 minutes she was going off about the teacher, and I didn't say a thing to get her going. It sounds like they put all the kids who are behind in that class (and I'm assuming Q got dumped in there because I was upfront with her needing a 504). There's 30 kids, and they are super behind. Finished unit 2 in math and they are supposed to be on unit 6. So Q is bored and not learning anything new. They also have too much free time in class and not a lot of whole group instruction like Q is used to. The mom said Q is wiggly but nowhere near the worst. She said she is a good kid and she is really sorry the teacher is picking on her so much. I'm glad someone else sees it, and that we aren't the only one having issues and going to the useless principal. It's going to be a sucky year, folks. Q thinks she did well on the gifted assessment. I'm not sure about E. If I had to pick, I'd pick Q for it because E has a lot to work on with handwriting and following directions. If he doesn't get in, we will probably hold off until he is in middle school (and then it's really just math and everyone tests in to see where you are). E also finished vision therapy. He stopped making progress, so the optometrist said there wasn't much else he could do for him. That was kind of sad but I also don't miss 2 hours of driving for a 30 minute appointment every week. Nice to have my Thursday evenings back. Just in time to start lacrosse with 2 hour practices and an hour of driving back and forth. Yeeeyyyy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tank Posted March 8 Share Posted March 8 Okay. It happened. My kid moved out few days ago. Feel weird. Don't like it. But also, he just came over when I heard what I was making for dinner, so maybe this is the new normal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destiny Skywalker Posted March 8 Author Share Posted March 8 Ha, I love it. Picking based on who's making what. Sounds like you and the ex live reasonably close together that it's not hard for him to pop in, though? If so that will make this easier. And worst case, could he crash on the couch for a night? I get it, it's not a private space but it's a way of letting him know he's always welcome. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tank Posted March 8 Share Posted March 8 Yeah, she's literally just a mile away, he has his own car, he has keys, he's usually off with friends anyway. It's all very normal for his age, and he and I have a great relationship... but it still makes me sad that I'm not giving him a dedicated space. It's probably cause I never felt like I belonged at my dad's place once I moved out when I was 12. I always had to sleep on a couch or sofa and wasn't very welcome. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jacen123 Posted March 9 Share Posted March 9 It’s so strange for me now hearing about your son being at this stage with my own being just 4 months old. I can’t imagine kids growing up now anymore hahaha. Also, it seems like we just hit the 4 month sleep regression. I was expecting it to be just him waking up more often again, not him gettting super fussy and angry in the evening and through the night each time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jacen123 Posted Saturday at 09:57 PM Share Posted Saturday at 09:57 PM We got hit with our son’s first illness on Wednesday. He brought home a stomach virus that got spread to the rest of us over the past few days. He’s also often resisting going to bed at night now, which have me almost no sleep before the illness hit me today. He’s feeling much better at least and my wife is at least on the mend from it seemingly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destiny Skywalker Posted 15 hours ago Author Share Posted 15 hours ago How are you all doing? Fully recovered, I hope. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jacen123 Posted 5 hours ago Share Posted 5 hours ago Thanks for asking. My wife and our baby are. Her father didn’t seem to really get it fortunately. The ill east and stresses involved seem to have caused diverticulitis to flare up again, but this time with some complications. I’m in the hospital waiting to see if it will heal up still or if I will need to have urgent surgery. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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