We are probably giving up on the private school the older one goes to because I don't think they will be able to support him enough, much as we love what a wonderful environment it is because it provides her with much needed structure that we weren't getting in the public school environment. We are actually having him evaluated by the school district to qualify for a special education Kindergarten that is designed to transition kids to a regular first grade class. He needs a smaller class environment and help with some of his fine motor and gross motor skills because of his vision. We're starting occupational therapy for sensory processing and we already take him to special vision therapy every week. It is like pulling teeth to get him help and then everyone wants OT to magically fix things immediately. I'm so frustrated.
I feel you, Cerina. He's defiant for doctors and teachers but not for us. Even his teacher who we've known for 5 years and baby sits for us tells everyone that he is so different at our home. I really think it's the environment. We live pretty quietly and simply. Since my grandma was a hoarder, I am not big on having a ton of stuff. I've also learned to not put my kids in environments where they will be overwhelmed. I just want them to feel safe. Apparently that is a tall order.
Many times it is the environment. Some have started advocating for home visits for evaluations like this but this presents other issues because kids also behave differently when guests are in the house. I know that this makes it even more stressful. I wish I could offer more in the brief time I have today between classes. Hopefully Ender will be along shortly as he's much better at this typing responses than I am. Just remember that sometimes they are scared too. Because when you go to a clinical area it's scary. It's not comfortable. I get super nervous too. I know it feels like taking a car into be serviced and describing the problem and then when they test drive it the mechanic is all "I heard nothing."