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Say Something Random II - Eclectic Depression
Posted 31 December 2015 - 10:00 PM
- Ms. Spam +1 this
Posted 31 December 2015 - 11:05 PM
HA! I too had weirdo mother problems for New Years Eve.
My sister has had kidney failure. She spent almost all of Thanksgiving in the hospital. The doctor has been telling my sister that the kidneys are failing and she's going to be on dialysis until she gets a transplant. Because she smokes she will probably be low on the list but I can't remember how it works. Back when she got the first kidney transplant I was younger and didn't pay much attention. My brother gave it to give my sister life and to avoid military service. 18 years is apparently a pretty respectable time for a kidney to go. They told my sister way way back in November - I was witness - that she is probably going to start dialysis in the new year. It sunk in to my Mom tonight. So she's raging at the world and pissed off and the blaming everyone for a KIDNEY. Tim asked me to call her so I decided to forgo my New Years Eve plan to visit downtown and see the lights and walk a bit to call her.
She is pissed that Tina has to do the dialysis that goes through her tummy through a tube. She blames Diane, my step mom, calling her a ****ing bitch and if Dad hadn't married her everything would still be good. So trying common sense I said "You know, Tina would still have kidney issues if you stayed with Dad." And the phone slams shut on the other end. Sigh.
The thing is Tina is scared of doing this alone. My Mom wants to be angry at everyone but doesn't want to go with her to sit while she goes through the process. I feel bad that I'm 898 miles away. Mom just wants to talk nonsense because really she's mad that her life turned out the way it did. And meanwhile the person who suffers is the person who needs my mom to be strong and unselfish.
She still rails on about Karl leaving her penniless. She's not penniless. She has a paid of house and money coming in from Social Security. WTF does a person who won't leave the house want?
I can't deal.
Posted 01 January 2016 - 01:00 AM
You know what, it would be a relief, because if she's down the street from me, she's going to expect me to visit all the time and I can expect to deal with this crap constantly. Sounds awesome.
Posted 01 January 2016 - 04:33 AM
Posted 02 January 2016 - 01:35 AM
Posted 02 January 2016 - 09:51 AM
It's all good. Some day I'm going up to Seattle and I wouldn't mind meeting you and Tami for drinks with Pong and Frex.
- monkeygirl +1 this
Posted 02 January 2016 - 09:01 PM
- Ryn +1 this
Posted 02 January 2016 - 09:47 PM
Parenting is hard.
Posted 03 January 2016 - 12:16 PM
Pong and I were stuck in the same horrible traffic jam between Olympia and Portland the other day. Had I known during the worst of it, I would've told him to pull over and find a bar.
When I had to go to Portland a couple weeks ago it took me 6 hours to get there. SIX. MOTHERFUACKING HOURS.
Posted 03 January 2016 - 10:21 PM
Posted 05 January 2016 - 10:41 PM
My son's favorite color is red. Always has been, even when he was a baby. Sometimes when he's choosing a color option for something and red isn't available he chooses pink because it's closest to red. Today we went to buy him an 8 drawer rolling cart for storage in his room and the only color options were white and pink. Naturally, he wanted pink, but I found myself wanting to talk him out of it just because I know someone is going to give him grief about it.
Parenting is hard.
Buy pink stuff for him, anyway. If he sees you defending his personal choices, he'll learn to defend other people when they need it. I hate it that toys are divided by color because of some dumb societal expectation that makes no sense, and that parents and kids both get judged for picking the "wrong" color or toy or whatever. I can see how parenting must be a challenge when you have to fight these battles over the most mundane things, like what color your child prefers.
Posted 06 January 2016 - 12:13 AM
We already defend his adoration of Disney "princess" movies and love for all Bath & Body Works products and scents. Seriously. Parenting is hard. So glad I'm not having a girl.
- Driver +1 this
Posted 07 January 2016 - 07:28 AM
I already told my mom that when I have a kid, I'm not putting up with any comments from anyone about what my child does or does not like. Oh no, your son likes princesses and Bath and Body Works? That means he'll learn to appreciate and respect women and smell nice. HOW HORRIBLE.
Seriously, gender roles and expectations are the worst. You're a good parent for letting Noah do what he wants.
- Driver +1 this
Posted 07 January 2016 - 08:16 AM
No, it was the Friday before-12/18
Posted 07 January 2016 - 08:23 PM
Changing a leaky shower cartridge is supposed to be easy, they say. The handle being stuck on disagrees.
Posted 07 January 2016 - 10:08 PM
OMG! I was like "I can YouTube this!" when I had to change my shower cartridge. I was able to get the handle off. The attempt to get the stupid cartridge out was my undoing. I got so pissed because it wouldn't come out no matter what I tried I bashed it with a wrench and ended up having to call a plumbing company. SIGH.
Posted 07 January 2016 - 11:10 PM
I have decided just to get a drill (which I know I should have anyway) and drill the damn thing out and replace the handle with a "better" one. I really hope that I can get the cartridge out easily enough, but I'm now doubting that due to how hard our water is here.
Posted 08 January 2016 - 08:44 AM
What's a shower cartridge?
Posted 08 January 2016 - 10:42 AM
If I remember rightly it controls water flow and temperature to your shower head. Mine looked like a white African fertility doll and it turned out the replacement I bought at Home Depot would not fit so the plumber was actually my savior because they had to special order the replacement.
- Jacen123 +1 this
Posted 08 January 2016 - 10:58 AM
Sounds like a bunch of voodoo to me.
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Posted 08 January 2016 - 11:19 AM
What's a shower cartridge?
I believe that Spam had it right. It is what stops water or lets it go up to the shower head. It sits right behind the shower handle and/or knobs. Eventually, those washers at the bottom of the picture Spam posted can weaken, which keeps a seal from forming with the water pipes. This allows water to travel up to the shower head to drip out, even when the handle and/or knobs are turned completely off.
Until I get these last pieces of equipment, I at least have attached some string up on the shower head that passes over the hole the water is dripping from so that the water will travel down that and I don't have to hear the ungodly annoying dripping noises any more.
Posted 09 January 2016 - 12:58 PM
My big stressor is gone. I had applied for a job that I completely forgot about. They called me this week, I did a phone interview and got to meet with the hiring managers today. After the interview, they asked me to stick around while they talked. The came back offering me a better job than the one I had applied for, and $15,000 a year more than I make now, along with working 8-4:15 Monday-Friday. And my commute is going from 45 minutes down to 15 minutes. So I could work an hour over each day and still get home 2 hours earlier than my current job.
I accepted it on the spot.
- Mara Jade Skywalker, 3 & 6 years to go..., Jacen123 and 7 others like this
Posted 09 January 2016 - 01:01 PM
Posted 09 January 2016 - 06:48 PM
I finally got the handle off, but now the damn bonnet nut is stuck, too. Stupid home repairs.
- Ms. Spam +1 this