Cerina

Assuming you can afford it, lawyer up anyway. It's not going to stop. They're being absolutely fucking ridiculous at this point. Is her therapist willing to testify to her overall stress level and emotional state? 

I would also yank her out and homeschool anyway. But I know it's not as easy as it sounds since you both work full time and all. 

But seriously, fuck these people. 

8 hours ago, Destiny Skywalker said:

My boobs fit nothing.

Solidarity, sister. 

So that's one of the only good parts about living close to family - I never feel like compensating them for inconveniencing them for things like laundry usage or dinner or a place to stay when the AC goes out or baby/pet sitting. 

Teh memes are rolling in!

On 3/8/2024 at 10:10 PM, Destiny Skywalker said:

I had a Girl Scout meeting tonight. You guys are way more interesting. 

Cerina, ughhh I'm super sorry about the account. We never use our debit cards anymore because I'm so worried about this happening. I wish the bank would issue us an old school ATM only card. Are you going to be able to recover the money?

Yeah, the bank refunded it all while they do their investigation. 

I keep trying to watch the rebuttal. It's painful. 

So yesterday someone cleaned out one of our bank accounts. They stole my debit card number, so now I have to get a new card...again. This is like the 3rd card in 2 years. 

But that wasn't the most interesting part of my day. 

Trevor and I each got a letter in the mail from the Polaski, Indiana Department of Children's Services letting us know that some kid we've never heard of was removed from her home and we had to be notified by law since we're related. Long story short, she turned out to be one of Trevor's ex-wife's kids. Trevor and his ex divorced almost 20 years ago. They were together for less than a year. We have no earthly idea how or why we wound up being flagged as relatives. Even using the legal definition of "relative" in the law the letter referenced we wouldn't qualify except as "any other related adult as named by the child or their parent". 

Other oddities - my letter came to me with my maiden name on it, a name I haven't used in 12 years at least; both envelopes were handwritten with our current address which we haven't even updated our DLs to, they both still say Houston; the envelope was postmarked 01/29/24 but we got it yesterday. 

OMG I'M SO JEALOUS

Why u gotta be so dark and broody? 

Did you try clicking "Unfollow"?

Have y'all seen some of the bat-shit insanity coming from CPAC? I mean, more than the usual bat-shit insanity that is typically CPAC. 

 

Crap. I thought it was the 8th.  
 

ok. Well let’s pick a Friday 

...will be old enough to legally buy and consume alcohol in all 50 states in about 3 weeks. 

I was a few months shy of turning 21 myself when I first joined, which now means that I have lived more life with Nightly than without. 

My Nightly-aversary happens to be on a Friday, so...Zoom party??

On 10/4/2022 at 4:01 PM, Cerina said:

Background info: 

My husband Trevor and I started dating in May 2000. We moved in with each other that summer and stayed together until October 2001. He moved out, we broke up. He eventually joined the Navy and married some random girl moments after she turned 18. I started a friends with benefits sorta thing with one of his closest friends, Jason. Jason and I kept this up for years. Real feelings developed but we never upgraded our status beyond friends with benefits. Trevor eventually left the Navy and came home, wife in tow. They divorced. I balanced a friends with benefits thing with both Trevor and Jason for about a year, but it was tumultuous to say the least. Eventually, Jason was slowly replaced by Trevor, and in 2007 I got pregnant with Noah. Trevor and I married in 2011, and things have been pretty solid with us ever since. Trevor and Jason had a falling out not too long after, and we've only seen him a small handful of times since. Also of note, about 8ish years ago another mutual friend of all of ours told Trevor and I that Jason had told her that he regrets not taking things further with me back then and that he feels I'm "the one that got away". I had always assumed that my feelings were stronger than his, and if I had known this at the time, there's a very real chance that I never would have started things back up with Trevor. 

 

Ongoing issue:

About once every 2-3 months, I have a dream about Jason that brings back all the old feelings. They're insane. The dreams are never sexual but always very intimate, usually about reuniting or finally breaking down and admitting feelings or something along those lines. Now during the normal course of my life, I don't spend any time thinking about Jason at all. And under normal circumstances, I can admit that I miss him and our friendship (we had a very close bond beyond all the sleeping together), but I don't carry any lingering feels other than that. Trevor and I even talk about him every so often as he was a huge part of both of our lives for many years and so many of our good-ol'-days memories include him in some way.

However, when these dreams happen they seriously throw me off. You guys ever have dreams that feel so real that you keep the feelings with you for hours or even days after you wake up? This happens every time. For a day or so after these dreams, I basically float about in a daze of longing and heartache. Like I said, I don't really think about him normally, but for a good 24-48 hours these feelings are very real. And then I start thinking about reconnecting - I still have Jason's number (it hasn't changed in so long that I actually have it memorized from the early '00s) and know where he works (head of security at the outlet mall). So I start envisioning myself finding him and sparking up a friendship again. (I do actually miss his friendship. He helped me deal with my and Trevor's breakup in so many ways. I would have spiraled into a much deeper depression without him.)

So I don't know what to do with all of this. I had one of these dreams last night, so today I'm sitting here in my office trying to concentrate on work but instead keep thinking about what might have been, how much it feels like I have a hole in my life from the loss of his constant friendship, and fighting the urge to text him. Like I said...the feelings are very real right now despite everything I know about my normal feelings. 

Somebody tell me that I'm not crazy. 

Update! Despite having these dreams regularly for over a decade, I actually have not had a single one since I posted this almost 18 months ago. Therapy works you guys. Even if it's just ranting online. 

My heart goes out to you both. That's just so painful to read. 

Mean girl behavior is excused just like "boys will be boys" bullshit. The guilty parties just don't believe that they're doing anything wrong. They feel that they're entitled to be that way. 

Jesus! What little bitches are people raising up there? I know kids are mean and cruel at times, but this just seems over the top. I don't see how the adults in charge can just let this behavior continue. 

Definitely not too harsh. Setting and enforcing boundaries is very important. Especially when it comes to safety. 

And yeah, that's a bit odd for that age. 

5 hours ago, Hobbes said:

Email I got from a parent today.  Student (1st grade) is blue, teacher is red.  We provide sooo much support for this student.  Anytime she is asked to do something she doesn't want to do she cries, rolls around on the floor, throws things, runs from staff, punches and kicks staff (I have been punched and kicked repeatedly and had rocks thrown at me) and students.  This happens everyday.  This teacher is probably the kindest, most gentle staff member.  When we have dad pick her up, she is punching him and he is all, "what's the matter sweetheart--please be nice".  I almost lost it on him when he did that when she was repeatedly kicking me while I was explaining what happened. 

Ah yes. When you get your gentle parenting ideas from TikTok. I see shit like this a lot in gentle parenting groups. Parents are straight up permissive and don't understand why their children are brats.  

On 2/5/2024 at 6:48 PM, Tank said:

I had to stop with ScreenRant. It was just too much. Their pitch meetings series was funny, and I watched a couple Easter Egg videos-- but so much of their content is the sorts of conversations that used to happen on here 20 years ago and it drove me insane THEN.

Mostly Star Wars theories coming from people who have bad taste, hot takes, and have read every single thing with a Star Wars logo on it and act superior about it.

I get that. I tune out when they start offering opinions. Mostly I watch their recaps or Easter Egg videos for the Disney+ series. 

I think I should change my goal. I'm at 12 books so far this year, and I have 2 more that will be finished probably before Thursday. 

The list so far in no particular order:

Fourth Wing
Iron Flame
The Thursday Murder Club
The Man Who Died Twice
The Housemaid
Wrong Place Wrong Time
A Good Girl's Guide to Murder
The PARA Method
Veronica Ruiz Breaks the Bank
Murder on the Orient Express
The Very Secret Society of Irregular Witches
Legends & Lattes 

Almost finished with:

Everyone on this Train is a Suspect
A Court of Thorns & Roses

6 hours ago, Jacen123 said:

As if I didn’t know it already, I feel so out of tune with other people from this thread.  It is almost as baffling to me as the old soccer ball thread. 
 

But hey, maybe it’s not you, it’s me. Or is it?

Same. 

Cinema Therapy 
Midwest Magic Cleaning
Legal Eagle
How to ADHD
Heather Kell of Kell of a Plan
Planning with Bumble
The Speech Prof
Mothers Against Greg Abbott
Hannah Bayles
Mended Light
Clutterbug

And some I'm not subscribed to but must watch a lot because they're always on my home page:

Ms. Mojo/WatchMojo
CNN
all the late night talk shows
Mama Dr. Jones
Charisma on Command
TED-Ed
Howard Ho
Brandon McNulty
ScreenRant
Mountain Rug Cleaning 
 

15 hours ago, Destiny Skywalker said:

Wow. I was not expecting DeSantis to drop out this early. That said, either he or Haley had to drop out, and personally I'm glad it's DeSantis.

Do you think DeSantis is gunning for VP?

I really hope the moderate right jumps on the Haley train. I mean, they won't, because nobody thinks she's electable, but it would go a long way in restoring some semblance of sanity on that side of the aisle. Republicans as a whole need to get their shit in order and stop kowtowing to their fringe. 

17 hours ago, Destiny Skywalker said:

This is where I'm at as well. Biden appears to have a competent cabinet, and despite the media tearing Harris a new one just months into inheriting that shitshow, she'd likely be fine running the show. Things are a lot more stable under this administration, which is needed right now, given what a hot mess everything else seems to be. I don't think they have all that much control over the economy and inflation as we'd like to think, and we're still feeling the fallout from COVID and the Trump Administration there.

Yeah. I won't go as far as to say that Biden or Harris are in public service for the right reasons, but I do get the sense that they're not in it for power or ego alone. And that lends to them being open to the advice and counsel of others. That's the low bar I require of my elected officials. 

On 1/17/2024 at 12:25 PM, Hobbes said:

In line with my high nostalgia for the internet of yore, I decided to make a thread is a throwback to the original purpose of the internet...ranking dumb shit and arguing.

I love ranking stupid shit.  If I get bored or need to calm down, ranking dumb shit is my default go to.  For the last month the default conversation in my head has been ranking the months of the year.  Here is what I got:

 

I hate this stupid template because the colors are backwards. Like why is red at the top at the good thing? Red is bad. Green is good. Red stop, don't, danger. Green go. Stupid tier ranking template. 

I still fucking just love girl power scenes. Even when they're on the nose or in your face. I guess it means that I'm old enough to remember a childhood where females were still just sexy lamps in movies and TV. Even minor representation gets me. I cried at the inclusion of female background characters in TFA (I was also very, very pregnant but still).